“Broken hearts are complex. We were lost, unable to get our point of view across, build bridges and be comfortable in our own skin. Thereby, we adopted the same habit of becoming losers, and ultimately inflicting more harm to ourselves.”
Emotions are fluid. Flowing from the heart, they keep changing their path over time. Some move out, others stay put, yet more hang onto others looking for ways to heal. This understanding is emotional intelligence and the healing is emotional wellness. The mix of both makes us a mature and better person. It gives us the strength to walk through life harmoniously.
Women, by and large, are carers and nourishers, but their own care is mostly in a state of neglect. They weave their way in and out of life, sometimes finding a shoulder to rely on, most times being their own shoulder to carry their life.
Ways to overcome emotional exhaustion
1.Birth and death are the beginning and the end. In between, there is life. Accepting all that life puts in your basket and being versatile are the keys to living in joy.
2. Face your fears, stand in front of the mirror and deal with it. It will disappear when you do a makeover.
3. Find your mojo, celebrate your connection to Mother Earth.
4. Solitude is the new love; it brings clarity and calmness.
5. Injury and hurt are the new abilities. They give room to discover the new you, someone who can and will live, enjoy and show you the power of the spirit.
6. Discover new therapeutical practices such as Zazen meditation, reiki, pranic healing, art therapy, bibliotherapy, nature walks, birding, reading motivational books, exercise, go conquer your world.
7. Never say ‘never’, just carry on with what you believe in. Take it in your stride, leave behind the old beliefs and patterns.
8. Be open, accept diversity.
9. Children are sensitive and their emotions hang on a fragile thread. Tread slowly, carefully, and build stronger bonds, understand their fears, never compare the journey, give room for their creativity to flourish.
10. Be gentle with yourself, learn the art of forgiveness and compassion. Love can do wonders when dealing with toxic relationships.
11. Sometimes you need to become the parent, sometimes a friend, sometimes a carer and sometimes a child. Play all the roles that life dishes out, after all you are only an actor in this birth, going through all seasons and changes.
12. Start a blog, journal or write a diary, find your silent friend, a companion who is always with you.
13. Skill, reskill, upskill, repeat!
14. There is no such thing as forever. Embrace the impermanence of life and live in sync with your natural self.
15. Say goodbye to FOMO! Live in the here and now, meet and greet real people.
16. Accept help, ask for help.
17. Embrace the differences, move in and enjoy new cultures.
18. You are a winner, not a victim. You are the solution, not the problem.
19. Rewire your brain, do new things, change your pace, be your authentic self.
20. Men and women navigate their emotions in different ways, have an open communication channel.
21. Tears are not signs of weakness; they are pearls of wisdom shared by your spirit.
22. Perfection is outdated. The only joy is in chiselling away the sharp edges to become a wholesome, soft circle of harmony and peace.
You are right Ambica the coping part was most difficult. I had to rewrite, edit and establish the seamless flow of the chapters along with having some honorary write ups by the ones who did not participate in the activity. Some new chapters too n book cover design and all took 4 months but it was all worth in the end.
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Kudos for the ideation and the execution! It’s not easy walking the emotional paths.
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Ambica, your blog post itself is full of positive vibes. And must say, this post is showing your writing prowess. How beautifully you have crafted this blog post and the take aways from the book. Loved every bit but loved the most the last takeaway – Perfection is outdated. Sending you lots of love and hugs.
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Same to you, Swarnali.. lots of good wishes always
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I wonder a book review can be a narration of a lovely philosophical thought. “I no longer shy away from being who I am and how I became the person I am today.” It is difficult, but if practices, life will not be heavy. Seems, it looks a good read.
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Each takeaway you have listed is on point, Ambica. Particularly “You are a winner, not a victim. You are the solution, not the problem. ” It was not easy to share something so person publicly. Kudos to Roma for bringing it all together so beautifully.
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We all learn from each other, I guess that’s why life is called a circle!
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The takeaways resonate with me too. But for me some are still work in progress. I’m trying to journal; something is stopping me from getting there.
That said, I love your story in the book. It sure wouldn’t have been easy to open up and you did, and for your sake and for others. I hope many women find courage from your story and are able to be open about it too.
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What a powerful anthology and an inspiring journey you’ve shared! It’s truly commendable how each writer has opened up, embracing vulnerability to empower and heal not just themselves but also their readers. Your reflections on the lessons drawn from life’s vicissitudes are illuminating. Thank you for daring to share your personal story and for contributing to such a meaningful project. This book seems like a beacon for many seeking solace and strength in their own llives. Kudos!
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I really appreciate your writing style whenever I read your post. Takeaways you penned is Insightful.
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I agree with your takeaways from this amazing book. I am trying to reset, try and try my life after a few unexpected changes. Wanting to be strong. As you said being open is also a challenge, for someone as introverted as me.
This book has changed my views of hardship, and how these brave women have chosen to overcome the past into an amazing present
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It’s good to know you are getting more.cpmfortable with yourself. Glad to know the stories have helped. You.
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